Let’s face it. we all dread failing. Although we know that failure is part of life and it actually makes us grow intellectually, we still fear it. Some people might totally shut down and let their past mistakes take control of their lives. Some also avoid trying new ideas or following their passion to prevent the shame and pain that comes with failure.
So how do you let go and move on? Beating yourself up over past mistakes can only bring you hopelessness, shame, and resentment. It can make you watch from the sidelines as others are chasing their dreams. How you view failure can either make you or break you. When you fall down, get up much stronger and more focused. Here are ways to turn your biggest setbacks into comebacks.
Don’t Take Failure Personally
The most common mistake that we do is taking failure as a personal attack. Learn to separate failure from your identity. When you personalize failure, you risk damaging your confidence and self-esteem. Not being able to succeed in something the first time does not make you a failure. Don’t let failure define who you are.
Learn and Adapt
Look at failure as a learning opportunity. Suspend any feelings of anger, regret or frustration. With a clear mind, analyze the situation and gather all facts that led to the failure. Take a step back and process what you have learned. Moving forward, apply your profound knowledge and make yourself proud.
Don’t Dwell On the Mistakes
It is okay to feel disappointment or defeat when you fail. However, obsessing over your mistakes can not change what has happened. Instead, it can lead to a destructive path of self –loath and despair. Take the lessons that you have learned from your mistakes to shape your future. Taking the first positive steps will allow you to leave behind the negative trail of emotions and thoughts.
Don’t Look for The Approval of Others
Many times, we let fear take control of our lives because we fear losing respect or being judged by others. We are social in nature and, therefore, likely to be affected by what is said about us. Do not give too much power to the opinions of others. Remember that you are living your truth, and we are not all the same. Listening to others’ views about yourself can affect your potential success by dousing your passion and self-esteem.
Change Your Point of View
Most people have a negative attitude toward failure. How you view failure is what separates winners and losers. So pick your side. Shift your perspective from the negative side and learn from it. You should take failure to be your motivation. Make your big failure to be your greatest success story. Failure should be a stepping stone to greatness.
Failure is a part of life that we should face bravely. You should take it with a positive attitude and see it as a learning opportunity. When we focus on our mistakes, we engage in an unproductive lifestyle that makes you stagnant in life. In fact, view the failures as proof of pushing yourself and focus on issues that you can control.